Is it possible to build a good relationship? After all, the quality of interaction with people makes us happy. Any relationship is accompanied by emotions because without any emotions associated with this person, the relationship would not have begun. Emotions are the colors you use to color your relationship. They play one of the most important roles because when emotions are expressed, your partner can understand and find out what’s going on and understand, and try to solve the problem without scandal.
Any disputes and quarrels have a strong impact on us and can get out of hand for a long time. Mutual claims and insults, unspoken expectations, and scandals further complicate people in any relationship. The ability to express hot emotions and feelings constructively, on the contrary, helps to achieve the desired result – conflict resolution and communication.
Underdeveloped emotional intelligence is like a meager vocabulary. If the language of emotions is limited, it prevents you from building a close relationship in which both you and your partner will feel happy. Emotional intelligence determines how happy or unhappy you will be in relationships with other people. Emotions are an important and important support for long-term and “burning” relationships. People always feel how you feel about them. You and your knowledge will be uninteresting to them until they feel that you are interested in them. At the subconscious level, you act as a transmitter that tells others what your mood is: happy or sad, whether you feel like a winner or your self-esteem has dropped below zero!
What do you need to do to build a happy and strong relationship?
- Understand and share emotions.
Precisely because we put all our efforts into learning to “think”, we completely forgot how to feel. We became afraid of our own and other people’s emotions, so we stopped sharing them. This is the first and one of the most important secrets of relationships – understanding and sharing emotions gives freedom in relationships. When we understand how we feel, we can explain to our partner what is happening to us and what we want. When we allow ourselves to share, we feel very close because we begin to speak a completely different language. The language of feelings is the main language of relationships that can be agreed upon.
- Communication and active listening
It is also worth noting the ability to listen is a very important factor in the relationship. Most often, trust between people is based on simple conversations and moral support. How much you can listen to your partner speaks to the degree of intimacy, as well as how much this person is valuable to you.
- The importance of mutual concessions
Compromise is a word that largely describes family relationships. Sometimes it is more useful to meet your partner and make a joint decision on a particular issue, rather than insisting on your own. Finding a common solution helps to avoid misunderstandings and any quarrels.
- Using “I messages”.
Using self-messages will help you avoid conflicts and at the same time make your partner hear you. The technique of self-messages does not force the partner to defend, it, on the contrary, invites him to dialogue, gives the chance to express his opinion, and leaves both participants of dialogue a field for maneuvers.
- Do not make assumptions about other people’s intentions.
Try not to get carried away with assumptions and projections of your emotions on others, try to find out how they feel and admit your mistake if you misunderstood them. Understanding your feelings and the feelings of the people you are dealing with is not only a cornerstone of negotiations but also a basis for constructive relationships and empathic listening. It is never too late to start such an interaction.
Do you think this is unrealistic? But, we assure you this is more than real. These are all skills that are practiced throughout life.
The main thing is just to want and allow yourself to be happy next to your loved one, everything else is trained.
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