Do emotions affect your financial situation, or does money control them? All great desires for abundance can be shattered by emotional blocks, beliefs, and hidden attitudes about money. What do you think about money? Is it good or bad to have a lot of them? Or maybe scary? Let’s figure it out.
The first step to a healthy relationship with money can be precisely the awareness of attachment to it. It is said that money does not go where emotions are difficult. Of course, if you are a joyful person, then you have much more chances for harmonious communication, building a career growth strategy, improving the quality of work, which is an ideal condition for money to float to you. But if there is also a bias towards the immense love of pieces of paper – this is not “ok”. After all, where there is a love attachment, in the event of a departure, disappointment can also come. The most beneficial attitude towards money is unemotional.
It is worth understanding that money is a tool for satisfying needs. No more and no less. But the emotions that finances evoke in us can be another stumbling block for development.
Psychotherapists have identified four emotions that appear most frequently when it comes to money:
Fear. This is the pressure that does not allow us to adequately reflect on the situation. Fears can be associated both with a real danger of loss (then you need to work on a strategy to eliminate the risk, and with empty experience, the roots of which go back to childhood.
Guilt. An emotion that has two facets: one – about the lack of enough money, which means there is a feeling “I should save, not spend”; the other – if there is a lot of money, but there is guilt for your success.
Shame. The most uncomfortable, intolerable emotion about money. This is because attitudes regarding shame go very deeply into the essence of the personality: “I am worse than others”, “I do not deserve this.” It is a basic human emotion, but many people are afraid to talk about it, so it can control them.
Anger. This emotion shuts us off from our surroundings. May be based on a sense of the injustice of the world or money; anger at the lack of opportunities; resentment towards parents, partners, and oneself.
If emotions drive money, this leads to avoiding accounting, to thoughtless purchases, to a lack of strategy and planning of financial spending and savings. And these actions, in turn, trigger the same emotions again, and so on in a circle.
When we figure out the emotions and attitudes that cause money, we can learn financial literacy, as well as accept a few money rules:
Money goes to peace and does not like the hustle and bustle.
Give money freedom, do not pinch, let go easily.
Count your finances, be clear.
Have a clear purpose for your money.
In total, to improve your financial situation, you need to deal with emotions about money, learn a little literacy in behavior with them, follow the rules and be as calm as possible about income. It’s okay to continue to feel the emotions associated with money, but by being aware of them, you are in control of the situation, not them. Smart money management is the path to financial abundance. Good luck with that!