What is validation? This is the recognition of the truth of another person’s experiences. It is acceptance and respect for what is happening now. Understanding emotions, helping to reveal feelings, and expressing sympathy and empathy. What does emotion validation consist of?
- Encouraging the expression of feelings
You can encourage yourself and the other person to share your thoughts and feelings. Use a diary of emotions for yourself, you need to keep it regularly.
If you are supporting another person, you can ask “How are you feeling?” – every person wants to be heard.
- Mirroring someone else’s pain and suffering.
If you validate your feelings, you acknowledge their existence.
By mirroring the pain of another person, you acknowledge the presence of his feelings. Through emotions, a person tries to convey his pain, making it clear that you hear the person, it becomes easier for him.
- Giving meaning to feelings.
It is important to explain to yourself the content of your emotions. “I’m sad because of…”. As a rule, emotions indicate our values. For another person, you indicate why their experiences are important: “I understand why you are sad”, “I understand how difficult it is for you”.
- Reduction of pain.
Recognize that these are common feelings, most people feel the same as you in similar situations. It helps people not to feel alone, and different from others and reduces the feeling of misunderstanding. Separation from other people and their feelings.
- Clear distinction of emotions and expansion of their range.
Try to fully disclose your feelings. People often experience ambivalent experiences that can be frightening. However, you can be happy about what is happening and longing at the same time. It is important to share your experiences and to allow all feelings to be.
- Respect for the moment.
Do not devalue your experiences. Let them be, don’t try to control and remove them. Don’t try to silence them.
- Awareness of the limits of validation.
It is important to understand your limitations. Other people’s emotions and experiences are beyond your control. If the emotions have already happened, then it will not be possible to fix them. No matter how hard you try to live your emotions or show empathy for another person, your efforts may not lead to anything.